Surviving The First Year Of Marriage: 25 Tips For Newlyweds (Bride and Groom)

Surviving the first year of marriage is a great accomplishment. Simply because of the marriage adjustments you and your spouse will go through as a newly married couple.
And like many newlyweds, our first year of marriage was not easy. It seemed that it was allemergency mode. From one thing to another.
We certainly couldn’t have made it alone, even when it came to changing Ashley’s last name. And wished a book like our First Year of Marriage book for newlyweds existed.
If you feel overwhelmed, confused, or scared about surviving your first year of marriage, don’t worry. Below are 25 tips for newlyweds that will help you survive the first year of marriage.
How to survive your first year of marriage tips
1. Be on the same page with your spouse.
Especially when it comes to the important issues such as finances, kids and when to have them, sex, intimacy, creating a monthly family budget, career etc.
2. Let your expectations in marriage be known to each other.
Agree to compromise on your differences.
3. The first year is a transition period.
So be ready to learn, compromise, and adjust to each other. Work through your differences and think as WE, not I.
If you are going to change your name after marriage, do it asap so it does not bring unwanted stress to your marriage.
4. There will be conflicts!
But your goal should be to go to bed happy. So work it out in the best way that fits your personalities.
Your spouse might need longer time to cool off and think things through while you might want it solved pronto.
5. Avoid the blame game.
Don’t be selfish.
And don’t keep score or judge your spouse too quickly.
6. Decide divorce is not an option (unless there are special circumstances i.e. abuse, addiction, infidelity)
7. Allow each other time to adjust in the first year by adapting yourself and not trying to change your spouse.
8. Marriage is a 100/100 partnership, not the 50/50 we hear.
If you are not giving 100 then you are not committed to your marriage and your spouse, as such call it a part-time relationship!
9. Always improve the good.
Learn from the bad experiences that occur in the first year. And all throughout your marriage.
10. Confront your own issues and discuss them with your spouse.
Share your feelings.
Show your love, appreciation, and care for each other.
11. Understand that you take on a new family.
You married your spouse but he/she is part of an extended family.
12. Respect your in-laws even if you don’t agree or like them.
13. Be ready for the unexpected surprises that could easily end a marriage.
For example, hidden secrets such as huge student loan and credit card debts, the loss of jobs, sudden illness to your spouse etc.
14. Enjoy the lovemaking, and never take it for granted. Mix it up.
15. Learn how to fight fair with your spouse.
16. Anything worth fighting for requires intentional hard work and continuous nurturing.
17. Be slow to anger.
Respond don’t react. Patience is key.
18. Focus on improving yourself during this transition period.
19. Seek, learn and apply the positive information you learn about marriage.
20. Communication and paying attention to your spouse are two of the keys to a successful, healthy, and happy marriage.
21. Learn to forgive each other. Don’t call names or keep score.
22. Spend quality time to grow together.
Connect and make time for each other. Your spouse and marriage relationship should be your priority over family, hobbies, and career.
23. Focus on the needs of your spouse, yourself, and your marriage.
24. Define your roles.
For example, who cooks, washes the dishes or car, empties the garbage.
25. The moment your marriage becomes official, your marriage seed is simultaneously planted; nurture it for excellent growth.
What we wished we had known before getting married
We wished we had known how to communicate effectively with each other. Simply because we struggled to communicate effectively during the first few months of our marriage.
As you know, communication is one of the most common marriage problems many couples face every single day.
Furthermore, a lot of marriage problems happen either because of no communication or of the lack of effective communication between couples.
So learning how to communicate with your spouse should become one of your priorities now.
Seek help during your First Year
Fortunately for us, we are not afraid to ask for help. When we experienced some of our hardest marriage moments that first year, we sought for help.
Because the fact is this:
There is someone or a married couple who has been in your shoes before that could help you solve your problems.
In other words, don’t be shy to ask for help when you need it. You will be glad you did. Trusting God and having relatives who supported was also vital for our first year.
Essential resources for surviving the first year of marriage
For us, reading Dave Ramsey’s Total Money Makeover book and listening to his online radio was a great resource for us.
As a result, we have created this first year of marriage resource page to help couples survive their first year of marriage.
In addition, we launched the First Year Marriage Show podcast to help newlyweds adjust to married life by learning from the first year experiences of other married couples.
Also, check out this list of must-read books for newlyweds that will help you survive the first year of marriage.
Improve on your first year of marriage
Don’t t rest on your laurels after surviving your first year or first five years of marriage.
Considering these divorce statistics, your marriage will be successful only if you and your spouse are willing to put in the continuous effort required to make it successful.
Remember:
Always improve yourself and your marriage so you can become a better husband or wife.
And to do that, listen to marriage podcasts, talk with other married couples and read these great marriage books.
Final thoughts
Surviving the first year of marriage is one of the biggest challenges for many newlyweds. So let it be a learning experience (transitional year) to cherish and be proud of.
Although we went through various challenges, we survived our first year of marriage. You can also survive your first year by applying some of the tips we used to survive our first year of marriage.
And don’t forget to:
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We hope these 25 tips will help you adjust to married life, build a strong foundation for your marriage and survive your First Year.
Your turn:
Would surviving the first year of marriage be difficult for you?
If you are already past your first year, how did you survive the first year of marriage?
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